Do you want an honest answer?
I’m back, and feeling (a little) better! I did take a hot bath and drink a glass of wine, and I did curl up in a blanket with a chick flick (Marie Antoinette), and I did take time off work- 3 days. I also took a slew of medicine and am at the moment running on Dayquil. I’m back at “the old swivel chair” trying to catch up on work/do damage control on the disasters that inevitably happen when I’m gone.
Anyway, I’ve been thinking about the silly things we do out of habit: namely, the “How are you?” People walking by my desk or visiting the office or, less often, on the phone… it’s nothing more than a social nicety; usually it’s mumbled without thinking and without expecting an answer. Usually I just answer “fine, thanks”, because usually I AM fine. But I try to only ask if I care/have the time to listen to a real answer, even though I know I won’t get one 90% of the time.
I’m a genuine person and I don’t like small talk and “social niceties”. If you don’t care how I am, why bother asking? The way I hear it every day, the “How are you?” isn’t even deserving of a question mark. You know the tone I’m talking about. “Hey, how are you.” It’s insulting. And since I’m not fine today, It’s been making me feel shallow all day to have to answer “I’m ok.” when I really want to answer “I haven’t been able to breathe through my nose in 6 days, and I’ve hacked up a some really, truly horrendous and unidentifiable masses of something gooey that I’m considering donating to DU for scientific research.”
Too much? It’d definitely be the last time that guy from Halliburton asks a receptionist about the current state of her day without thinking long and hard. But I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable. >:)